A recent opinion piece at the Huffington Post pointed out how the Bisexual Community, the "B" in LGBTQ, has become invisible (and even discriminated) in the broader orientation community at large.
Even before reading the piece, merely seeing the title ("Bisexual People Aren’t Confused Or Closeted. We’re Tired Of Being Invisible."), I had to agree. I speak with numerous men who have this belief that they are either Heterosexual or Homosexual when it boils down to it and that there is no in between. They feel that if they are 51% attracted to men, they are 100% gay. Of course not all men with urges towards both sexes feel this way, but it is an alarming number. The article kind of opened my eyes to what was going on and it matched perfectly with what I was seeing first hand. Granted, I am sure that some of the men with this belief actually were gay, but I know as a fact that some were Bi but they saw sexual orientation as an all or nothing one way or the other. They saw themselves as "confused" or "conflicted" if they didn't pick one sex OR the other. They equated Bisexuality with being in a fog rather than it being a light in & of itself. Bisexuality IS an orientation.
Let me use myself as an example...
"I" am "Bisexual". I am not confused, nor am I conflicted. I don't identify this way out of socialsexuality. I don't identify this way to play-the-field. Nor do I identify as Bisexual do to an inability to choose. As far back as I can remember, I have been attracted (sexually) to boys AND girls. I have been in sexual & romantic relationships with men AND women. And when I am free and aroused, I masturbate to pornography of men AND women (and I am speaking of solo porn of either sex). This is not a confusion. I am not a conflicted Heterosexual. I am not a closeted Lesbian. I AM A BISEXUAL.
Also, I am not sexually indifferent. Some people say that bisexuals are just "pansexuals". I am not a so-called pansexual. While I love my FemBoys, T-Girls, and Sissies, I am not sexually attracted to them. Some say that Bisexuality is just an attraction to a type of person that crosses the gender barrier, such as being attracted to Femininity across the board and thus being attracted to Feminine Men AND Women. That may indeed be the case for some people... in fact, I am positive that it is for some. However, I am attracted to Feminine Females and to Masculine Males. I don't get aroused by Masculine Women or by Effeminate Men.
People need to remember (or realize) that Bisexuality is indeed a thing. I am not a Lesbian. I am not Pansexual. Nor am I straight. I AM BISEXUAL. Always have been and always will be. It is just who I am and how I am wired.
"Bringing Sexual Awareness to the Global Consciousness."
@andie58 There is no doubt in my mind that you are Bisexual and not Bicurious Andie. You've had wayyyyy too many actual sexual experiences with men to deem it as being curious. Just because you haven't had sex with a man in quite some time doesn't mean you've lost your bisexuality.
"Bringing Sexual Awareness to the Global Consciousness."
I agree I'm not just curious and have enjoyed sex with men in my past and miss it very much. I watch way more gay porn than straight porn and I think a lot more about giving oral to men than women so yes, I'm 100% BI and we shouldn't be overlooked as it would help all camps within the sexuality spectrum.
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After re-reading your initial post on the subject of bisexuality I find it more nuanced as you so elegantly laid out. Just to say; "I Michael" am a bisexual doesn't really cover it and made me start to wonder about the spectrum of bisexuality. I love women and earlier in my life the thought of gay porn was a big turn-off for me but now I masturbate more frequently too a pair of balls slapping another mans ass before I would think to masturbating too a pair of balls slapping a woman between her legs. So, I still love women but my sexual preference would be too be fucked by a man and not me fucking a woman. So, I've gone from being a straight heterosexual to bisexual (liking the idea of having sex with both men and women) to mainly thinking and wanting only to have sex with a man, does this make me gay now?
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